The True Love Dare: Dare 10

Alma 26:27-31

“Now when our hearts were depressed, and we were about to turn back, behold, the Lord comforted us, and said: Go amongst thy brethren, the Lamanites, and bear with patience thine afflictions, and I will give unto you success.

“And now behold, we have come, and been forth amongst them; and we have been patient in our sufferings, and we have suffered every privation;  yea, we have traveled from house to house, relying upon the mercies of the world–not upon the mercies of the world alone but upon the mercies of God. And we have entered into their houses and taught them, and we have taught them, and we have taught them in their streets; yea, and we have taught them upon their hills; and we have also entered into their temples and their synagogues and taught them; and we have been cast out, and mocked, and spit upon, and smote upon our cheeks; and we have been stoned, and taken and bound with strong cords, and cast into prison; and through the power and wisdom of God we have been delivered again.”

Dare Ten:

Be commited to this person’s eternal welfare.

I think the scripture above illustrates really well this concept (reading the rest of the chapter is highly recommended!).

In all of our relationships commitment is needed to make it thrive. I love this quote:

“The moment one definitely commits oneself, and then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would otherwise never have occurred. A whole stream of events issue from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man (or woman) could have dreamed could have come his (or her) way.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

When we are committed to another person’s eternal welfare, no matter the highs, no matter the lows, we’re there to work it out, stick it out, figure it out.

Every relationship has it’s ebbs and flows, times when you’re close, times when you’re distant. But if there is an underlying level of commitment, the gap between the two will become less and less.

This commitment fuels our drive to keep trying when things get rough. It keeps us searching for answers when everything we have in our arsenal is used up. Commitment is what brings us to the cross when we’re broken and want to keep trying but don’t know how.

When we’ve have a broken relationship with someone we love and there’s a gap the size of the Grand Canyon between us and our loved one, commitment is what gets us hiking down and across and up the other side.

When we have that kind of commitment, coupled with an “errand from the Lord”, you’ve got the dynamic duo! With this combination, “nothing is impossible”, because “with God, all things are possible”.

Our commitment has to be to God and the Truth before we can give commitment to our loved ones, because it is from that commitment to Him that we gain the level of commitment needed for our relationships with others. When this commitment to God and others is intact, we will not be content until their eternal welfare is secured.

Also, when we are committed to God and His truth and the truth that He places in each person, we draw to ourselves the circumstances to make those truths happen and we gain a holy audacity and tenacity to do things we never before would have done. That is God’s commitment working through us and that is one exciting ride!

“Let us not be content to wait and see what will happen, but give us the determination to make the right things happen.”

Horace Mann

Recent life events have really got me thinking about commitment. What makes us committed to some people and not to others? During my teenage-hood, my parents were very committed to me, though sometimes the way they showed it was painful…

What drives a commitment to someone? I have found that for me, commitment comes two fold–commitment because of love and commitment because of duty. You need both, because sometimes one fades and you need the other to keep it strong.

Being committed to someone’s eternal welfare stems out of love and duty. Duty won’t last forever. If we do it for duty’s sake, eventually it will die. Love is the fuel that we need to keep things going. We don’t stay because we have to, we stay because we want to. And duty has it’s place to, I’m not staying because I want to, I’m staying because I need to/I have to.

I think God knows that nothing is going to last that we don’t actually want. Do we want this person in our life? Do they mean the world to us? What are we willing to sacrifice in their behalf to bring about the best for them?

Sometimes being committed takes different meanings. Sometimes that means not shielding them from the consequences of their choices. Sometimes that means walking away because you know the only way they are going to grow is if they don’t have you for a crutch anymore. That doesn’t mean that it doesn’t break your heart to have to leave.

Being committed to someone’s eternal welfare is loving them enough to do what’s best for them, even if they don’t understand it, hoping that they will. Loving them enough to do what’s best, period. Being committed is about doing what is best in the long haul, for everyone involved, individually and collectively.

Being committed is about loving service. Giving in ways they can receive and offering to give more in hopes they’ll be willing to receive. Being committed is about keeping at it, being dedicated, being diligent, knowing that all your efforts are going to produce fruit one day.

Assignment for Dare Ten:

Is there someone in your life that needs your commitment? Ask God to show you the Vision of what He is trying to create and manifest in that person’s life. Ask Him to help you be committed to that Vision and to open up opportunities for you to be a part of making that Vision happen. Make sure to keep a record of the journey!


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